Choosing People in Your Life
People can make or break you. They come into your life for a reason a season or a lifetime; to teach you a lesson or maybe just to make you realize what life is about. Every person you meet has their purpose that they bring into your life, whether it is for a long or short period of time. They leave something behind.
There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some people come into your life to test you, some to teach you, some to love you, some to use you, and some to bring out the very best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why its worth it.
“We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason."
In lockdown this was brought to light again, if certain people were not around during this time of our lives it would not have been easy, and some new ones came along at exactly the right time.
Then there are that people that have been you in your life for years that you realize are not good for your soul and sucks the life from you. No need for those. Choose your humans that you want near you.
We crave happiness and fulfillment; therefore, we want to make sure that we allow the right people in our lives, that bring out only the best of you.
Find those people that accepts you for you are no judging even at your worst. You can be natural around them. Society forces us to act a certain way in front of certain people, this is constant hard work, choose those that you do not need to pretend around. There is no better feeling than being 100% natural with the one you love or a friend. When you comfortable with yourself others will be comfortable around you.
If you have to try hard to impress people or they only see your worth when you doing something for them then you need to CTRL ALT DLT, yes friendship or relationships are work but not to the extent where that is the only thing you doing working for constant recognition or for the person to love you more because of stuff you do for them. Oh that is a hard NO, nobody got time for that anymore.
Having happy friends makes you happier, a study from Harvard University found that happy and unhappy people cluster around each other. Your people influence your happiness. If all they do is complaint and never crack a joke; again DLT those. They suck you dry.
If a friendship or relationship no longer serves us let it go, while it may be true you had a great friendship or relationship in the past, you might have grown in different directions now. Be grateful for the past and let it go. Again getting back to people will come into your life for a reason, a season, some a lifetime, but each one will teach you something about yourself or take you through a process of growing healing, wherever you may be in your life that person is there in that moment for a reason, whether it is you taking something good or bad from the relationship.
Choose authenticity – trust it built when there are no hidden agendas.
Life is messy sometimes – you make stupid mistakes and allow the wrong people in your life. You obsess over people who are clearly not worth it, you repeat destructive patterns, and then there are days where yours just inexplicably sad. This is your journey choose people who are willing to share the full picture of being human with you and the fullest expression of yourself.
There is no written rule that says just because it is family you need to accept the family members that drain you and forgive them time after time, because “that is what family does”, you show people how to treat you by how you allow them to treat you. I hate it when people say, “they’re still your family.” Just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you have to keep them in your life if they toxic. Blood means nothing sometimes. Don’t let people guilt you into being in contact with someone who isn’t good for your mental health.
“Choose people who choose you"
One of the things that makes life so fulfilling, is the people we encounter and build relationships with along the way. Any sort of relationship from a simple chat to meeting your future spouse, can give us either a moment or a lifetime of happiness.
The wrong people will make you question what you, yourself are capable of. It is important to realize the weight they can put on your shoulders, and that these feelings are not coming from within.
The right people will motivate you to become the absolute best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.
It’s not just about finding the right people to be around – its also about being the right person to be around.
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